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20 Things To Know Before 40

November 29, 2012 By Janine 21 Comments

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This week’s quest for self-development saw me turning to the guru of all knowledge, Oprah. Her website/magazine has an article 20 Things Everyone Should Master By 40.

The article has sensible suggestions for all sorts of grown-up talents you really should be able to accomplish by the time you hit the big four-oh.  How to delegate, how to make conversation at parties, how to make friends – at any age, simple ways to look polished … and so on.

I’ve spent the week crafting my own list of 20 things you should know before 40.

1. In the end we all embrace our inner lesbian and start wearing comfortable shoes.

2. The first sign of ageing occurs in the arms – the tuckshop lady flaps – you will learn to love little cardigans.

3. Life is too short – for all manner of crap. People who bring you down. Spending time on things you don’t like.Wasting energy on the impossible.

4. Humour can save many a dire situation.

5. Money DOES solve a multitude of problems – and the bloke who says money doesn’t buy happiness never owned a bank account with $2 in it and a pile of bills worth $2,000.

6. Just because nobody thinks it will work doesn’t mean it won’t.

7. Friendship can survive distance, competing obligations, little contact. My dream is we all end up in the same retirement home – we will rock that place!

8. Resilience is the most important life skill to acquire (and the earlier the better). ‘Cause I’m here to tell you life can knock you around a bit and the ability to get yourself back up again is more valuable than any other talent.

9. Beauty doesn’t last.

10.Change is inevitable and sometimes vitally necessary.

11. When all seems hopeless head to the beauty spa. It won’t solve the problems but at least you will moving forward with great eyebrows and manicured nails.

12. You can learn more through books than attending a classroom.

13. Life moves on, sometimes at an alarming speed.

14. Your brain has a finite amount of space, don’t take up valuable real estate trying to absorb unneccessary information, it doesn’t matter if you can’t remember your husband’s mobile phone number, that’s why speed dialling was created.

15. If you decide to have children, be prepared for them to mirror back some of your worst attributes, it’s a genetic thing, and it will irritate the hell out you, this family isn’t big enough for TWO drama queens!

16. Do what you want. You are never going to please the people with your choices, at least this way YOU get to be happy.

17. The fact you failed maths won’t matter once you get a calculator.

18. The place you call home is important.

19. Bull**** will take you further than talent every time.

20. When you decide to write a numbered list, come up with a figure than halve it. Trust me it will be easier that way.

 

 


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Comments

  1. Diana Douglas says

    November 29, 2012 at 8:35 am

    Loved this! Even if I am 18 years too late!

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    • Janine says

      November 29, 2012 at 7:07 pm

      I think it may be applicable whatever your age!

      Reply
  2. Cathy says

    November 29, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    Great list. I agree 100%!

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    • Janine says

      November 29, 2012 at 7:07 pm

      Glad I’m not alone with this.

      Reply
  3. Lyndal says

    November 30, 2012 at 8:38 am

    Oh I loved this list! I’ve recently just learnt the day spa one, so so true!

    Reply
    • Janine says

      November 30, 2012 at 5:30 pm

      Nothing beats a groomed eyebrows and a manicure!

      Reply
  4. Kirsty @ My Home Truths says

    November 30, 2012 at 1:39 pm

    I agree with you whole heartedly. I particularly believe that life is too short to put up with crap, resilience is such a vital skill and change is inevitable – glad that I have already mastered those before 40! However, I have not yet been to a day spa, I will definitely have to do that in the next 3 years…!

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    • Janine says

      November 30, 2012 at 5:30 pm

      Beg for vouchers for Christmas!

      Reply
  5. Chantelle Dalgarno says

    November 30, 2012 at 1:51 pm

    #19 wins for me – every single time.

    When I worked in the financial services industry, if I ever got into an argument or dispute where I knew I was in over my head, I’d usually fall back on the old mantra: “baffle them with bull****…”

    Worked every time 😉

    Joining via #fybf

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    • Janine says

      November 30, 2012 at 5:31 pm

      I figure even if I don’t know what I’m talking about, saying it confidently makes it appear like I do!

      Reply
  6. Beck says

    November 30, 2012 at 2:07 pm

    I love this list….
    So much of it I can relate to…. x

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    • Janine says

      November 30, 2012 at 5:31 pm

      Glad you could relate.

      Reply
  7. Rhianna says

    November 30, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    What a wonderful list, full of truth and wisdom. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses

    Reply
    • Janine says

      November 30, 2012 at 5:32 pm

      I’m just a wise old crone now! LOL

      Reply
  8. Sonia @ Natural New Age Mum says

    November 30, 2012 at 8:11 pm

    Yes, I am heading towards 41 now and I have embraced my inner lesbian and bought some comfy shoes – not crocs – I do have to draw the line somewhere!! 🙂

    Reply
  9. grace says

    December 1, 2012 at 3:24 am

    I’ll keep this list tucked away. #13 is very true so 40 is coming on quicker than I’d like to think. #15 scares me!

    Reply
    • Janine says

      December 1, 2012 at 7:38 am

      #15 is the reason why mothers drink. Just sayin’. Thanks for stopping by.

      Reply
  10. Wendy says

    December 1, 2012 at 4:44 am

    Love your list. You had me laughing out loud – you are right on!

    Reply
    • Janine says

      December 1, 2012 at 7:32 am

      So glad I gave you a laugh.

      Reply
  11. Chrystina says

    December 2, 2012 at 5:10 am

    Number 19 is so sad.

    Reply
  12. Lisa Renee says

    December 3, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    Great ideas, every one! 🙂

    Reply

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