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Letter to the Husband

June 20, 2014 By Janine 10 Comments

1559291_10152234289953515_8851233043006633283_oDear Simon,

How’s things with you? All harp music and fluffy clouds?

Just a few things you’ve missed, the Blues won Origin, Ford has sacked 230 workers so manufacturing is in even more trouble, nobody likes the Lib’s budget and Kim Kardashian got married.  Kardashian … the reality TV … oh never mind.

I took a quiz tonight, the how will you die quiz, turns I have a high likelihood of dying from old age/natural causes. Given current projections show the average person will be living to 90 or older by 2044 it appears I’m here for the long haul. So I really should get my life sorted out. Apparently not engaging in high risk activities or sports helps increase your life expectancy, funny that.

The girls are doing well, passed all their exams which was a massive achievement all things considered. I’ve been cutting them a lot of slack, you know grief and everything, but of course underneath it all they are still TEENAGERS. It’s a wonderful time of bonding for parent and child/ren. AAARGHH. Although perhaps we have just all hit the anger stage of mourning simultaneously which makes for a fun time in the old house.

I rang your mum like you requested, she’s doing OK given the circumstances.

I’ve been reading other bloggers who get messages from their departed loved ones like you know, white feathers in their path, flowers unseasonally blooming. That whole light blowing, electrical malfunction thing you’ve got happening, ENOUGH WITH IT. Can we just go to the white feathers please?

I’ve been sick, no really I’ve been sick with the flu, stop rolling your eyes, I know you are rolling your eyes, I’ve been BEDRIDDEN for days. Despite your complete lack of sympathy for my ill-health it was handy to be able to wake you at two in the morning to fetch me water and Panadol. Turns out the kids don’t like the idea of me phoning them from the bedroom with after-midnight instructions – but hey they wanted mobile phones!

Both the counsellor and the psychic suggested writing you a letter, I don’t think they meant it as a blog post suggestion but I’ve got to multi-task EVERYTHING now. The psychic recommended leaving the “paper” letter on the bedside table and it could be moved in the morning as a sign you had read it. Given I’ve done it on the computer and your current obsession with electrical appliance destruction I’m fearful for the safety of the laptop tonight.

Well I’d better sign off now, I need to clear off the books, magazines and potato chip crumbs from the bed before I can go to sleep. Yep, nuthin’ you can do about that now.

Love

Janine

PS, I’m going to get a TV in the bedroom too, so there.

 

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Comments

  1. Kylee says

    June 21, 2014 at 1:09 pm

    Difficult letter to write. I thought you were very restrained although I did notice it was a letter to “the” husband.
    Like you I am highly impractical. I would need a handyman on speed dial .

    Reply
    • Janine says

      June 21, 2014 at 10:52 pm

      It’s because we married practical men Kylee, we’ve never needed to know any of this stuff, and we were busy being the “brains” of the partnership!! Well that’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

      Reply
  2. Trish says

    June 21, 2014 at 9:43 pm

    Letters do help with grief (though mine is limited to baby who never drew breath and couldn’t read it and I guess my Dad) , laughter and remembering the little funny things give us a measure of comfort too.
    Thinking of you and white feathers in your path.

    Reply
    • Janine says

      June 21, 2014 at 10:50 pm

      Thank you Trish, you are an amazing person, who faces your own challenges with grace and determination.

      Reply
  3. nmsullivan0909 says

    June 22, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    Dear Simon,
    Your wife is so funny, in her time of grief. You must have had a wonderful, funny household, because she says you were quite humorous, too. Well, if you must change electricity, can you just fix things? Especially the light in the aquarium. And maybe you can teach Janine remotely (in her sleep?) how to use tools, fix things, and even use the remotes. I’m sure she’ll write you more letters once she’s over the flu, and finished with her daily posting challenge. Best, N

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    • Janine says

      June 23, 2014 at 12:37 pm

      I love that Noreen!

      Reply
  4. Rachel@thekidsareallright says

    June 23, 2014 at 2:50 pm

    You shouldn’t be able to make me smile with a letter to your recently and dearly departed husband, but you do. I bet Simon’s smiling too. And looking for a white feather. xxxx

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    • Janine says

      June 23, 2014 at 10:12 pm

      Smiles are good. xxx

      Reply
  5. Carly findlay says

    July 19, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    Dear Simon,
    Your wife is a brilliant writer and she also made some light of a very sad situation. I bet you helped her in doing that.
    Us blog readers are here to support her.
    Carly.

    Reply
    • Janine says

      July 19, 2014 at 11:35 pm

      Thank you Carly.

      Reply

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