The Hippie Child goes into Year 10 next year. After that there’s two years of intensity for the HSC and then she has to head out into the big, wide world.
The question of “what do you want to be when you grow up?” is starting to be asked with a serious tone.
We’ve gone through what she likes about her school subjects, we’ve (ok I’ve) started looking at possible uni courses.
I’ve had the conversation that no matter what she chooses to do after school, it will only be one of many careers she will undertake in her lifetime. The days of securing a “job for life” or sticking with the one career from uni to grave are gone. Flexibility, mobility, transferable skills are all a feature of the modern workplace.
In one discussion she was heard to say “but there’s no money in that”. She was right, the career she was thinking of was insecure, stressful and erratic. I heard myself agreeing with her then I had to stop. “But if it is what you really want to do, then go for it.”
Given this blog was born out of a desire to recapture a long-forgotten writing dream it’s a little hypocritical to then try to lead my daughter AWAY from her passion.
In one blogging course I did we were asked to talk about what we had loved doing as a child. It was amazing to discover how many people had known their passion early in life, be it writing, art, music, fashion, craft, but been led away from it, into a more “sensible” direction. One that could pay the bills, buy a house, give the kids a good education.
I wonder what the world would look like if everyone got to pursue their dreams from the get go? How many amazing things would be created, discovered, experienced, seen, taught? Wouldn’t the world be a happier place?
While wrestling with this topic I read Lisa Lintern’s piece Could’ve been. Should’ve been. Wasn’t. The post discusses how she wanted to be an actor, which her parents supported, BUT they encouraged her to have a “back-up” plan. Eventually the “back-up” plan became THE plan, and the acting dream died away.
What if we didn’t ask our kids to have a “back-up” plan? What if we said aim for what you really, really want? Worry about a back-up when all other attempts have failed. Without the security of a “back-up” plan would they work harder, take more risks, make the dream a reality, because hell, there’s nothing to fall back on?
In a serendipitous internet moment, while I was debating these issues I wandered into Inspiration Cooperative where Theresa pointed me to Tori at One.Eleven Studio who had linked to this amazing video.
The video tells me exactly what I need to tell my daughters. Find what you love and just do it. The money, the grown-up stuff, you’ll figure it out as you go along, you will find a way to make it work because it is your passion.
What would you do if money was no object? I would blog all day.